Could the smiles in women’s graduation photos predict anything about their lives decades later?

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50 years of monitoring 110 women from Mills College showed that:

“The warmer the woman’s smile, 20 and 30 years later she was feeling more accomplished in her goals, she was handling stress better, she was getting along better with other people, and she was more happily married.”

“Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life” by Dacher Keltner


Metaphors helps you reduce your negative emotions

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Fifty participants spent 5 minutes each day for a week to write about their negative emotions. They wrote either literal words such as, “I felt anxious or confused,” or they used metaphorical words such as, “I felt like a leaf in the wind.”

Only the participants who wrote metaphors decreased their depression and negative emotion ratings.

They also found that metaphors can affect a feeling. For example, people rated neutral words as more pleasant when they were printed in a white font rather than a black one. We can connect it with “light” which we associate metaphorically with “good.”


Fetterman, A., Bair, J., Werth, M., Landkammer, F., & Robinson, M. (2015). The Scope and Consequences of Metaphoric Thinking: Using Individual Differences in Metaphor Usage to Understand How Metaphor Functions. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology


“Fully 85% or more of all physical illnesses today are psychosomatic in origin:

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“psycho,”, the mind, makes “soma”, the body, sick. The very act of letting go and relaxing and practicing solitude and meditation on a regular basis dramatically lowers your levels of stress and tension and raises your level of energy and awarness.”

Million Dollar Habits: Proven Power Practices to Double and Triple Your Income” – Brian Tracy chapter 11 page 216


Reading literary fiction boosts readers’ emotional skills

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If you read literary fiction, it boosts your emotional intelligence.

Although the genre of fiction in general didn’t improve emotional skills.

There is no strict distinction between literary and genre fiction. But we include in literary fiction, for instance, Lydia Davis, George Orwell, and Kazuo Ishiguro.

For instance, romances, or books by Rosamunde Pilcher, Tom Clancy, and Stephen King belong to genre fiction.

This was true even when accounting for demographic variables. These included age, gender, educational achievement, undergraduate major, and self-reported empathy.


Once tissue [skin, organs] are removed from a human body, our connection with those removed parts ceases to exist.

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The DNA sample was isolated and placed in a specially-designed chamber and taken to another room in the same building.

An extraordinary thing happened. When the donor’s measured responses registered emotional ‘peaks’ or ‘dips,’ the donor’s DNA showed a simultaneous electrical response that either spiked or dipped. The DNA acted as if it were still connected energetically to its donor at a distance.

Julie Motz, “Everyone an Energy Healer: The Treat V Conference” Santa Fe, NM, Advances: The Journal of Mind-Body Health, vol. 9 (1993).


Expressive writing is used to diminish difficult life experiences.

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For example “in an experiment with 63 recently unemployed professionals, those assigned to write about the thoughts and emotions surrounding their job loss were reemployed MORE QUICKLY than those who wrote about non- traumatic topics or who did not write at all.

Expressive writing appeared to influence individuals’ attitudes about their old jobs and about finding new employment rather than their motivation to seek employment.”

Besides, expressive writing can improve immune system and lung function, enhance relationships and social role functioning.

The Writing Cure: How Expressive Writing Promotes Health and Emotional Well-Being” Crisis The Journal of Crisis Intervention and Suicide Prevention 23(3) · September 2002

Expressive Writing and Coping with Job Loss” Stefanie P. Spera1, Eric D. Buhrfeind2 and James W. Pennebaker2 / Academy of Management Journal


A Wandering Mind Is an Unhappy Mind

By |2016-08-23T12:16:53+00:00August 23rd, 2016|Categories: Personal Success|Tags: , |

Researchers developed a smartphone technology to sample people’s ongoing thoughts, feelings, and actions and found

  • (i) that people are thinking about what is not happening almost as often as they are thinking about what is and
  • (ii) found that doing so typically makes them unhappy.

source: “A Wandering Mind Is an Unhappy Mind” Matthew A. Killingsworth*, Daniel T. Gilbert Science 12 Nov 2010: Vol. 330, Issue 6006, pp. 932