Looks Matter the Most When it Comes to a Fling

By |2017-01-14T15:14:10+00:00January 14th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , |

Participants of this study chose their preferred partner based on various descriptions.

Both men and women mostly chose warmth/trustworthiness over status/resources for long or short-term relationships.

Men desired much more attractiveness/vitality for both a fling and long-term relationship than women.

Both genders increased the importance of attractiveness and vitality in short-term relationships. But they also lowered the importance of warmth and trustworthiness.

Fletcher, G. J. O., Tither, J.M., O’Loughlin, C., Friesen, M. & Overall., N. (2004). Warm and homely or cold and beautiful? Sex differences in trading off traits in mate selection. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 30, 659-672.


By |2017-01-08T08:15:49+00:00January 8th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , |

Most people would prefer that you simply buy them something that they’ve told you they want.

In a study, participants were happier receiving a gift from the wedding list than receiving a surprise gift. Researchers achieved the same scores in the next two studies.

Interestingly, in the final study recipients said they’d appreciate money more than items from the wish-list. Givers fought that argument and said that it is not true.

It looks like people like to get money first, later the item from a wish-list, and lastly at the end, a surprise gift.

Now life looks easier. Right?


Gino, F., and Flynn, F. (2011). Give them what they want: The benefits of explicitness in gift exchange. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 47 (5), 915-922 DOI: 10.1016/j.jesp.2011.03.015


Not Saying Thank You is The Worst Thing Which you Can do If You are an Unhappy Gift Recipient

By |2017-01-08T06:54:14+00:00January 8th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: |

The study showed that lack of this gratitude would harm the future of the relationship. Even a false smile was ok.

When participants were asked what the recipient should do they responded:

 “She could’ve done what the entire family does when opening gifts – acted disgustingly gracious and then forget about it,” said one participant.

Roster, C.A. (2006). “Moments of truth in gift exchanges: A critical analysis of communication indicators used to detect gift failure”. Psychology and marketing, 23, 885-903.


Buying Someone a Gift that You Like Will Help Make you Feel Closer to the Recipient.

By |2017-01-07T10:34:44+00:00January 7th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: |

Researchers recruited over one hundred students. They gave them music from Itunes. The recipient who received a track with the giver’s passions, said they felt closer to the giver, as compared to the control participants.

Aknin, L., & Human, L. (2015). Give a piece of you: Gifts that reflect givers promote closeness Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 60, 8-16 DOI: 10.1016/j.jesp.2015.04.006


When Couple Feel Understood, Their Relationship Grows in Spite of Issues

By |2016-12-31T08:16:34+00:00December 31st, 2016|Categories: Relationships|Tags: |

A survey found that repeated arguments made one set of participants unhappy. But this was not true for another group who believed that their partners understood them. What more, the more participants understood each other the faster they resolved the problems.

Feeling understood during conflict may buffer against reduced relationship satisfaction in part. This strengthens the relationship. It also shows that the partners are considerate and are open to a positive behavioral change. (more…)


People who have experienced more misery show more mercy

By |2016-12-31T07:50:54+00:00December 31st, 2016|Categories: Interesting Facts, Relationships|Tags: , |

Researchers asked 224 people about their experiences. The participants answered questions about injuries, bereavements, disasters, and relationship breakdowns.

They also measured their empathy. At the end, they had a chance to donate to charity. The more misery the participants had experienced, the more empathy they had.

There was also a connection between greater generosity and higher donations to a charity. The kind of the adversity they suffered didn’t matter.



People who had suffered in life helped more people in need than those who had not suffered.

By |2017-01-21T10:27:51+00:00December 26th, 2016|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , |

This was true for people who suffered interpersonal and group-based harm and natural disasters; both countrymen and foreigners.


Pro-social attitudes toward tsunami victims were the highest among those who suffered from natural disasters.

Vollhardt JR, Staub E.; “Inclusive altruism born of suffering: the relationship between adversity and prosocial attitudes and behavior toward disadvantaged outgroups.” 2011 Jul; 81(3): 307-15.


We’re more willing to break social standards when the opportunity is in the middle

By |2016-12-26T02:34:08+00:00December 26th, 2016|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , , |

rather than at the start or end of a sequence.

Researchers proved this pattern of judgment and behavior in obeying to:
– ethical standards (e.g., cheating),
– religious traditions (e.g., skipping religious rituals)
– and performance standards (e.g., “cutting corners” on a task).