Couples that tease each other are happier and stay together longer.

By |2017-02-16T11:08:27+00:00February 16th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , |

“Happy couples tease a lot when they’re in conflict and they tease in these really goofy, lighthearted ways that say, “The fact that you don’t do the dishes bothers me, but I still love you. It’s not that big a deal; we can work this out.” They tease in ways that allow them to express issues of conflict, but in a cooperative and pleasant way. It predicted how long they’d stay together.”

Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life by Dacher Keltner


Could the smiles in women’s graduation photos predict anything about their lives decades later?

By |2017-02-11T14:47:28+00:00February 11th, 2017|Categories: Personal Success, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

50 years of monitoring 110 women from Mills College showed that:

“The warmer the woman’s smile, 20 and 30 years later she was feeling more accomplished in her goals, she was handling stress better, she was getting along better with other people, and she was more happily married.”

“Born to Be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life” by Dacher Keltner


According to scientists, the lack of laughter leads to divorce

By |2017-02-09T10:27:58+00:00February 7th, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , |

“For couples who divorced on average 13.9 years after they were married, it was the absence of laughter that predicted the end of their bond. In the early stages of a marriage, anger and contempt are highly toxic. In the later phases of intimate relations, it is the dearth of laughter that leads individuals to part ways.”

“Born to be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life” Dacher Keltner


If you want to encourage a team of people to bond, make sure everyone feels warm.

By |2017-02-02T15:57:48+00:00February 2nd, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: |

A warm room and hot coffee allows us to look warmer on people.

One group of people watched a movie inside a room where the temperature was set at a cool 15 to 18 degrees Celsius.

Meanwhile, a second group sat to watch a movie in a warmer room where the temperature was set to 22 to 24 degrees Celsius. The group in the warmer room felt socially closer to the experimenter. It is also interesting to note that they also used more concrete, natural language to describe the film.

Researchers achieved similar effects with hot coffee.

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A friendly people more often show positive emotion in their selfies

By |2017-02-02T15:58:12+00:00January 31st, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , , , |

A group of internet users who posted selfies to complete a personality questionnaire.

According to the scores:

– friendly people more often show positive emotion in their selfies. They also hold the camera at a lower position.

– those who scored higher for emotional instability were more likely to make a duck face;

– higher scores for openness-to-experience correlated with showing more positive emotion.

Interestingly, young students who tried to guess the personalities by looking at the selfie photos were mostly wrong. Maybe if we showed these pictures to middle-aged people the results would be yet another story.

Qiu, L., Lu, J., Yang, S., Qu, W., & Zhu, T. (2015). “What does your selfie say about you?” Computers in Human Behavior, 52, 443-449


Red increases attractiveness. Really?

By |2017-02-08T02:30:43+00:00January 23rd, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: |

There are three research studies which didn’t confirm it.

In this study, the men gave smaller tips to female servers who wore red.

In the second research, 206 young Dutch men judged the attractiveness of a woman on a dating site. The women wore either a red, black or white shirt. Some men wanted to find a one-night stand, the others a long-term partner. Regardless of context, the woman was not rated more attractive when wearing red.

In the third attempt, researchers achieved the same negative results with 200 Americans.

We have to remember that the red effect can be more significant in real interactions than in the lab with photos. Maybe the color influences the behavior when the person is acting more flirtatiously.

Lynn, M., Giebelhausen, M., Garcia, S., Li, Y., & Patumanon, I. (2013). “Clothing color and tipping: An attempted replication and extension.” Journal of Hospitality & Tourism Research. 


People in the early stages of love have smaller grey matter in a region of the brain involved in reward.

By |2017-02-02T15:59:11+00:00January 23rd, 2017|Categories: Relationships|Tags: , |

It’s possible that the brain adjusts to the intensity of feeling. But how fast?

But we have to also consider that the scans were taken at just one point in time. So we don’t know if being in love shrinks the right-dorsal striatum. Maybe people with less grey matter in this area are more likely to fall in love.

Kawamichi Hiroaki, Sugawara Sho K.; “Being in a Romantic Relationship Is Associated with Reduced Gray Matter Density in Striatum and Increased Subjective Happiness”; Frontiers in Psychology vol.7, 1763 page, 2016 year


Study: We Prefer One Expensive Wine Rather Than 2 Cheaper Ones As a Gift

By |2017-02-02T10:17:58+00:00January 16th, 2017|Categories: Personal Success, Relationships|Tags: , |

What more, recipients also said that they prefer cash to vouchers, more (cheaper) wine, and larger, better second-hand books.
Teigen, K.H., Olsen, M.V.G. & Solas, O.E. (2005). Giver-receiver asymmetries in gift preferences. British Journal of Social Psychology, 44, 127-148.